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Subject: Brazilian guys


Posted by Maria
On Monday, June 10, 2002 at 16:31:32

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Hi, I know this is not a love advice forum, but I figured there might be someone who is fimilar with Brazilian guys, and could help me. Ok, there is this guy doing a full 4 year term at the University I work at. I see him almost everyday, and we always speak to each other. I can tell that he is shy, and I'm am too. My friend that works with me told him one day, that he had an admirer, she said he got a big grin on his face and automatically asked if it was me. She said it wasen't me and asked him how he felt about the admirer and he said he was flattered and that he was shy, and he always messes things up, either he says to much or too litte. Now, we play around with each other saying things like were gonna get married, etc and he's even told me he loves me 3 times. The 3 time I told him I loved him back. There is another guy that is from Brazil also and they are roomates. He knows I like this guy but I've asked him not to say any thing. One day I asked the friend to teach me something to say in portugues so that I could say to my guy when I saw him later. He wanted me to say I love you in portuguese. Well when they came in, the friend was trying to get me to say I love you so I did. My guy smiled, blushed and looked down. He did not say it say it back, insteat he said something really fast and told me to say it to the friend. The friend was like no don't repeat that. I am assuming it was not good. He has nerver disrepected me before and it really hurt my fellings for him to have acted like that, because he is really one of the nicest people I've ever met. I know Brazilian's show their affection, but like with him if he likes my hair, or even my earrings he will let me know. We both give each other compliments, and touch with hugs and pats. There are more things that you really can't explain in writing. Another problem is we both play games, like I will not speak to him so he will speak to me. He does the same. This drives me mad. Well he is now home for the summer and I miss him so much, but aleast I can try and figure this crazy sisutation out. Whats funny is that I have only been liking him for a few months, out of the year I've know him. In the beginning of the year I liked his other friend, which he knew about. Well all this stuff really started happing when I told him I didn't like the other freind any more. It was still took months after that for me to like him. Well to make a long story short, what should I do? Does it sound like he might like me? HELP!*smiles*
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by argghhhh
On Monday, June 10, 2002 at 17:48:11

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you should ask him over to your house and go upstairs and listen to Britney Spears CDs and watch her movie too, and get mom to make you some cookies and milk and then maybe show him your Barbie collection and your doll house and the other neat-o stuff you have in your pink frilly room...


RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Maria
On Monday, June 10, 2002 at 19:07:31

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I MIGHT JUST DO THAT< THAKS ALOT! HA< HA
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Maria
On Monday, June 10, 2002 at 19:07:41

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I MIGHT JUST DO THAT< THAKS ALOT! HA< HA
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Maria
On Monday, June 10, 2002 at 19:07:54

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I MIGHT JUST DO THAT< THAKS ALOT! HA< HA
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Khay
On Monday, June 10, 2002 at 21:10:37

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Sounds like you guys are playing footsie and 'beating the stick around the bush'. Hate to say it, but you guys do not sound like college students or adults. Honestly no offense meant.

That is way too much cuddling for adults. That sounds more like junior high school like when you are in 6th or 7th grade. If your guy isn't making the moves, do yourself a favor 'Leave Him Alone'. Think about it - do you really want to do all of the work in this relationship? Guys do not change after they start a serious relationship or get married. Whoever he was when you met him is who he will be afterwards. I am sorry if he has hurt your feelings. I've been there. But this is the truth - if he likes you shy or not he'll make the moves. Dont deceive yourself by saying he is shy.

Have you ever read the book 'The Rules'. Go out and grab the book. Basically, it saids let the Man be the Man. Let him take the lead and make the moves. If you have to work at it then you are not the one he really wants.

Give yourself some breathing space and let it go.
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Good lord
On Monday, June 10, 2002 at 21:55:09

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The Rules is for idiots.

If I ever think a girl is giving me "the rules" routine, I drop her as fast as I can. Unless she's really hot, in which case, I get around to dropping her later, if you know what I mean, wink wink.

Anyway, remember, this is a small child posting above here, so what the hell are you doing warping her precious Britney Smears/J.Lo/NSync addled mind with crap like "the rules?" spare me.

Kids that age to what they do. "the rules" don't apply in adult life, and they especially don't apply in the seventh grade.


RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Sick
On Monday, June 10, 2002 at 23:06:51

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Clearly, Khay is an American (or Americanized) woman. Pity.

>>If your guy isn't making the moves, do yourself a favor 'Leave Him Alone'. Think about it - do you really want to do all of the work in this relationship?

Precisely what is the "work" a woman is required to do in a budding relationship if, as you say, it's the man's job to make the moves? I can think of only one "job", so to speak, that a woman could offer this overworked man. Please enlighten me.

>>But this is the truth - if he likes you shy or not he'll make the moves.

The American female double standard...modern roles (equal opportunity) in the workplace, education, and the eschewing of the traditional roles as home and baby maker. Bravo for all that, I'm for it too. However, it appears men must maintain their traditional role as initiator in relationships with women. The mixed signals this sends is of no benefit whatsoever. You can't have it both ways. I suggest both you ladies modernize your world views (beyond a view that only benefits yourself) as well as grow up.

>>Dont deceive yourself by saying he is shy.

"Real men" are never shy, right?

>>The Rules is for idiots.

Good Lord, Amen.
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Mike
On Tuesday, June 11, 2002 at 11:17:09

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Stop playing games! If you guys really liked each other things would have happened naturally. You said that you play games with each other, how will you ever know when things are real. When you get older you will realize this, in the mean time just have fun.
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Khay
On Tuesday, June 11, 2002 at 11:40:10

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The Rules are just what they are. Let the man be the man! Last time I heard this was more true in Brazil's Macho Society than it has ever been in the Good Ole USA. If anything The Rules have far more 'Brazilian' sensibilities than American. The girl made it clear. She told the guy something nice in Portuguese and he responded with something not so nice. To top it off he went back home and she hasn't heard from him. Does that sound like someone who likes you?

I am not a staunch believer in the Rules but they make a lot of good points about relationships. If you get beyond the game playing and read between the lines all The Rules are saying is dont fool yourself into believing a guy is crazy about you. No matter what language you speak - Action Always Speaks Louder Than Words!

This particular young woman and her admirer are not even bahaving like adults. For instance, she claims he is shy - so what! Do you know how many women make the same claims and excuses about guys that they want to like them. They say things like 'Oh, He's the quiet type' or 'He's shy' or 'He's introverted' and all kinds of nonsense. Anything to keep the truth at bay which is the guy is not all that crazy about them and is not expressing his feelings for them. She's pining for this guy and a lot of good it will do her if he does not feel the same way.

If these guys like each other so much, what's with all of the foot games.

She might as well be reading The Rules and playing those games anyway because that's exactly what the both of them are doing!
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Lordy
On Tuesday, June 11, 2002 at 11:56:06

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oh come on, it's obvious these two are not behaving like adults, because they ARE NOT adults. Sounds to me like they are at about the seventh grade level.
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Maria
On Tuesday, June 11, 2002 at 17:27:53

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Hey guys, thanks for responding. I know the games are very childish, and no we are not in 7th grade(lol). I just turned 20 and he just turned 19. My problem is a fear of rejection. I guess I'll just wait and see what happens when he comes back in 2 months, but I won't hold my breath. If noting becomes of this I will get over it, but it will be hard, not to mention the fact that we see each other everyday. We all know that it's hard when you like someone. I have a question though, are there guys who really are shy? (I don't want to be the one to get things going, and no I'm not trying to excuse him). He also dosen't have a car due to the fact that he really dosen't live in this country, so how could he really ask me out.
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Maria
On Tuesday, June 11, 2002 at 17:29:15

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Hey guys, thanks for responding. I know the games are very childish, and no we are not in 7th grade(lol). I just turned 20 and he just turned 19. My problem is a fear of rejection. I guess I'll just wait and see what happens when he comes back in 2 months, but I won't hold my breath. If noting becomes of this I will get over it, but it will be hard, not to mention the fact that we see each other everyday. We all know that it's hard when you like someone. I have a question though, are there guys who really are shy? (I don't want to be the one to get things going, and no I'm not trying to excuse him). He also dosen't have a car due to the fact that he really dosen't live in this country, so how could he really ask me out.
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Lordy
On Tuesday, June 11, 2002 at 20:47:44

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of course there are guys who are shy.

there are also 19 year old guys who are gay but don't know it yet. Or who might like you, but not like like you, if you know what I mean.

My advice, don't worry about it. Be nice to him when he comes back, and if something is going to happen, it's going to happen. If not, move on.

and grow the fuck up, geez!!!!!
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Khay
On Wednesday, June 12, 2002 at 11:07:03

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Hey Maria,

Excuse me if I came off a little harsh. I do apologize. Just making a point. Yes, some guys are shy.

In your case, if he did make a rude comment to you in portuguese, I find that a little worrisome. It would seem that a 'shy' guy wouldn't be so bold as to say something unpleasant to a woman who said something kind to him.

Even if things dont work out between you guys, just remember... There's an entire country down below called Brazil with lots and lots of Brazilian guys.

Cheers!
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Gringo
On Friday, July 05, 2002 at 10:30:46

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From what I've learned from Brazilian guys is that they are really arrogant in Brazil and once they go abroad they suddenly get a kick in the teeth because the women over here are not as easy as they are in Brazil. I am American and when I went to Brazil I felt like Tom Cruise or something. There were all these hot chicks with ugly Brazilian dudes and the minute they saw me they became like bitches in heat. So if you are a gringo and even if you canít get a girlfriend in the US go to Brazil and you will have a blast.
RE: Brazilian guys
Posted by Gringo
On Friday, July 05, 2002 at 10:32:09

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From what I have learned from Brazilian guys is that they are really arrogant in Brazil and once they go abroad they suddenly get a kick in the teeth because the women over here are not as easy as they are in Brazil. I am American and when I want to Brazil I felt like Tom Cruise or something. There were all these hot chicks with ugly or old Brazilian dudes and the minute they saw they were all over me. So if you are a gringo and even if you canít get a girl friend in the US go to Brazil and you will have a blast.

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